Anonymous said: tell us your most embarrassing story
So a while back i was at this party and i was the first girl to arrive and there were like 20 guys already there, we were all siting around, having a beer and whatnot when the dj arrived. So all the guys went out the front of the house to help set up the dj gear and it was just me sitting there alone in the backyard for like 5 minuets. I stood up to go follow them bc i was getting really bored when i realized something, my period had gone through my white pants and stained the while chair, i was humiliated, i had no idea what to do, i could hear the guys were coming back and i had to do something quick, time was running out. So i grabbed the chair, ran like 10 meters and threw it over the fence into the neighboring yard, i quickly walked back and tied my jacket around my waist. The guys soon returned and didn’t suspect a thing, i am amazing.
- That nudity is inherently sexual
- That people should be judged for their personal decisions
- That yelling solves problems
- That they are too young to be talking about the things they’re already starting to ask questions about
- That age correlates to importance
- That interacting with someone of the opposite sex is inherently romantic
- That the default for someone is straight and cisgender
NUMBER 4 THOUGH! Lindsay Doe of Sexplanations of Youtube has a very nice way of explaining how to answer sexual questions children have. She started with a clear but non detailed explanation and then asks the child if they want to know more. She doesn’t shame them for the question or judge the behaviors the answers include. Curiosity in children is perfectly natural and denying them information doesn’t somehow maintain innocence, it just creates more confusion and shame and reduces the likely hood that they will come to you with questions again, completely eliminating that healthy dialogue.
I don’t understand why me telling someone that I don’t want to sleep with them immediately becomes debate about my state of mind. I get psychoanalyzed about why I’m saying no and what is “a hold up” for me or whatever they choose to call it. And the best part is that they genuinely believe what they’re saying when they go ‘oh no, I’m not trying to convince you to do anything you don’t want to do, I just want you to understand.’ This has happened to me several times in the past few months and I just think it’s bull shit. The proper answer to me saying blatantly that I’m protective of myself and guarded and therefore take things slowly is to back off and just be a human, not show me why that’s wrong and continually tell me that “It’s good to be vulnerable!” You know why you say that? Because it excuses you from all responsibility when I get hurt. ”Vulnerability is part of life.” And you’ll be part of death if you say that to me again. I tried vulnerable. Fuck that. Vulnerable is a lot of things, the kind you mean just involves you getting laid instead of actually being open emotionally or something of that sense. (disclaimer: you is used in the plural sense. this rant is an accumulation of several situations.)
so I had to go to the hospital one night a few weeks ago and get medicine for an asthma attack and my dad just made an off hand comment about the bill to me and all i can think is like im sorry would you rather i died?! like i understand it was expensive but its a last resort situation, i dont think he should be making me feel guilty for almost dying….